Lesson For The Gentlemen.

So the child support case is over and done with. Although i was upset about the situation upon being served the papers, now i think that its a good thing that i was served. Now she cannot ask me for more money than i am supposed to give her, now she cannot tell me what i am giving is not good enough, now she cant say anything to me at all (thank you baby Jesus). One thing i do want to discus about this child support thing is the word "Retroactive". This word can be your worst enemy fellas so beware, lucky for me the mother of my kids did not know the meaning of the word when it was used in court. Suppose she did know the meaning of the word and she did decide to make the support order "Retroactive" than i would have been screwed, i was not ready for that word. My advice to all the fathers out there is to make sure you are ready for this word, because the day you are served child support papers is the day you will be obligated to pay. Do not get caught out there the way others do, they end up having to pay for 2 months prior to there court date just because of the retroactive order. Do not fall behind on your payments before you even start making payments, chances are you will not be able to catch up on what you owe. They will hit you with late fees on top of what you were ordered to pay. The system does not care about you, we have to make sure we are ready for every thing they throw at us.

Remember the word "Retroactive" and be ready for it.

Order Of Support, The Beginning.

September 9, 2010. my first court appearance for my custody battle. Prior to this court date i did not have any paternity rights for my oldest child who is now 9 years old. My name was not on her birth certificate because i was not present at the time of birth, although the mother and myself were still a couple. Fast forward to 10 years later the relationship was no longer working and that's when i thought about my name on her birth certificate. I know my kids mother more than anything in the world, so i knew once the relationship ended that she would do things that i feel i did not deserve (she kind of has a little girl mentality..and still does). So i knew i had to get paternity rights to my oldest daughter, if not than she would try to take her away from me for good. I filed for an order of paternity just in time, because she began dating immediately after our relationship was over and started to hate me and do some crazy things. I was granted the order of filiation, which is an acknowledgement of paternity. At the same time i requested to have her last name changed to my last name and the judge agreed and so did the mother. So now my daughter has my last name and i am legally her father. Now comes my favorite part, now i can finally file for custody of my kids. Back to September 9, 2010 my first court appearance for custody. Everything went really good for me, the referee seemed to be on my side, she was really nice to me bashed the kids mother a little. I was happy at this point, i thought this would be simple. They set another date for us to come back and I'm thinking its going to go the same way our next appearance. I got home on that day of September 9th and called my immediate family to tell them how happy i was because of how it went in court, nothing could be better now. I go down stairs check the mail and what do i see? A big white envelope, now should i have been surprised that she served me with child support papers or should i have saw this coming when i served her with custody papers. Either way that's when i realized this was not going to be an easy battle and this was only THE BEGINNING.